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The Avett Brothers have a way of writing love songs that feel both simple and impossibly deep. Their music doesn’t try to overwhelm you, it just sits with you. I Wish I Was is another reminder of how effective that approach can be, and why they keep showing up in Chillers.

From the start, the song leans into imagery that feels gentle but quietly devastating. The narrator compares himself to things that are close to someone, but never permanent: a flame in a candle, a sweater on a hanger, a tune drifting through a kitchen. Each one carries warmth, presence, even comfort… but all of them are temporary. Easy to put out. Easy to set aside. Easy to forget.

That’s where the tension lives.

There’s a clear longing to be near this person, even if the connection is fleeting. Even if it doesn’t last. But underneath that is a current of doubt—if he does get close, is there something inevitable waiting to pull them apart? Something that turns warmth into distance?

And still, the desire doesn’t go away.

By the end, the metaphor falls apart in the best way possible. The singer drops the comparisons and steps forward as himself, no longer a sweater or a flame or a passing song, but a real person choosing to be vulnerable. Choosing to risk it. Because that’s the only way connection ever actually happens.

That’s what makes this one hit.

It’s not really about wanting to be those small, fleeting things, it’s about the fear that you might only ever be seen that way. And the courage it takes to say, anyway: here I am.